Wednesday, 28 September 2016

Caring is black and white. You either care or you don't

                                         
                                                            Picture:kristinsunanta


If someone isn't avalaibe in your most crucial time but will contact you when you are better or settled down, does that mean they don't care? Or do they care about themselves so much more? If they can't be there but still say they care, does that mean they actually care or just saying that they care?

I know mental illness and human interaction aren't black and white, but when it comes down to caring about someone who is experiencing suicide ideation and self harm, then there is a black and white concept to that. People can sit behind their phones, look at something they see on social media and have a moment where they think 'aw poor Carissa, I wish there was more that I could do' then that brief thought will go and they will come back into the room and continue going about their day. Or they will see a message from me saying I feel suicidal and think 'oh again' and go about their day. 

You either care, authentically and genuinely- or you say you do to make yourself look caring and empathetic. There are people who would always pick up my calls, reply to my messages or ask to see me because they know the seriousness of it all. Then I have been cursed with people who have not picked up their phones, not taken my ideation seriously and ignored it. That is showing you don't care by the actions. Or they will excuse not being there by saying "I care so much but..."

My point is exactly what the last sentence of the picture says- If they cared about you, they wouldn't of done it. I know everyone is busy and they have to self care as well, but when it comes to those times and everyone is preaching how they support the mentally ill, why is it so hard to answer the phone and support someone when they communicate their needs?

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